Empowered Love Yourself First

Redefines attraction by starting with you. IRIS Dating’s selfie-verified community and chemistry AI highlight matches who admire your self-confidence, so you can lead with boundaries, humor, and clear plans rather than apologies or endless emoji fishing.

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Begin Within, Then Connect

Pain-point: After months of ghosting and unsolicited advice, Jordan deleted every app and booked solo movie nights instead. Loving yourself first felt safer but lonely—until IRIS introduced a smarter way. The app’s Chemistry Badge only appears when two people like each other’s faces, trimming awkward guesswork. Its Trust Rating filters catfish out, and capped daily profiles prevent doom-scrolling. Jordan kept their Friday self-date ritual yet still met Casey, a fellow film-noir fan, within a week. They swapped cinema snack recipes and planned a matinee, proof that self-love doesn’t mean solo forever. Today, they critique trailers together before the lights dim, a habit rooted in self-affection and multiplied through mutual respect.

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Visible Chemistry Badge

Nothing validates self-worth like clear interest. IRIS’s Chemistry Badge ignites only when AttractionDNA™ spots mutual visual appeal. Seeing that icon lets you keep head high—no overexplaining, no waiting for ghost prevention miracles. Chats start playful and direct, because both sides know the spark is real before the first hey. At that point, you can suggest self-care parallel plans—shared journaling hour or charity jog—without fearing rejection. The badge aligns attraction with respect, elevating love yourself first into duo practice.

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Dynamic Trust Rating

IRIS calculates a Trust Rating from verification status, response etiquette, and community feedback. Scores update nightly, encouraging consistent kindness. When you prioritize loving yourself first, you need partners who honor boundaries; the rating flags bad behavior early. High-score members unlock features like reply reminders, so considerate actions snowball. You’ll waste less time vetting and more time exploring mutual passions like hiking or poetry slams together with ease and trust every weekend ahead always for you.

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Daily Curated Stack

IRIS releases just a few profiles each morning, prompting you to savor them like mindful breaths instead of binge watching faces. This curated stack supports the Love Yourself First philosophy: review, reflect, then return to your hike or novel. The pause gives AttractionDNA™ time to learn from your reactions and swap out mismatches. Users report spending under fifteen minutes a day while still scheduling quality dates, proof that self-care and romance can share a calendar.

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Self-Care Date Prompts

Every chat includes optional Self-Care Prompts—like exchanging favorite affirmations or rating a guided meditation together. Completing a prompt unlocks a shared checklist you can bring on the real-world date, turning individual rituals into bonding moments. You’ll both leave the meetup with new personal insights plus a memory cultivated from mutual growth, not superficial thrills. It’s the simplest bridge between loving yourself first and loving someone who understands why that matters, so deep roots grow easily.

Spark Beats Scroll

Traditional apps want thumbs moving; IRIS wants hearts ready. By combining chemistry badges, nightly trust updates, and a minimalist stack, the platform replaces dopamine loops with genuine sparks. You spend evenings perfecting your playlist, not chasing validation pings. When you do connect, both parties arrive with self-worth intact, making the leap from personal growth to shared growth feel inevitable, not accidental, for modern romantics everywhere.

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What people say

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Trent Silvernail

I've been on Iris for eight months and had a better experience getting matched on here compared to other apps. Deleted all the others and kept just Iris. Since it is still a new app, I had to be patient as more people have signed up. Met a few good friends so far and the recent match... WOW! Most successful date I have had in years!

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Chi

Hi! I just wanted to let you know because of your app I have a valentines date tonight! Thank you so much, I really like the way your app is built. And the interface is very user friendly and unique.

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Rico

I'm writing this message more to vent and really advise overall. I've used Tinder, Bumble, and Iris. For probably three years now. Out of all of the companies who operate a dating app, Iris's business model and mission statement is more holistic and comforting. So I felt safer here.

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Clyde

Just seeing the things you guys do for your customers, i have to say im personally impressed. Something like this, something rare that makes people feel as though others ARE trying to create simpler and more efficient methods of doing things such as dating, are truly out there, blows my mind personally.

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Joe Makela

Looking for a great app to find the love of your life? This is it! It uses stock photos to find your "type" then any person you may like has been verified to be real because they use selfie verified profiles! It's the best dating app I have come across!

Frequently Asked Questions

Iris uses advanced AI to analyze your preferences and behavior. Instead of relying on basic filters, our system learns what you find attractive by observing your interactions with profiles. This creates more meaningful matches based on genuine chemistry.

Iris offers both free and premium features. The free version includes basic matching and messaging capabilities. Our premium subscription unlocks additional features like advanced filters, unlimited likes, and priority matching.

Your privacy is our top priority. We use selfie verification to ensure authentic profiles, implement strong data encryption, and never share your personal information with third parties. You have full control over your profile visibility and can delete your data at any time.

Unlike traditional dating apps that rely on basic filters and endless swiping, Iris focuses on genuine attraction and chemistry. Our AI learns your preferences through behavior, not just stated interests, leading to more meaningful matches and better conversations.

Training Iris is the first step to personalized dating recommendations. Our AI focuses on facial features while being blind to skin color, race, hairstyle, and clothes. When you create an account, you'll train Iris by rating stock photos to help it understand your preferences.

The key to optimal training is balance: while enough 'High' ratings are essential, being overly generous can dilute the specificity of your type. Being too selective can prolong the process. Once trained, Iris continuously learns from your interactions to improve recommendations.

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Install IRIS and meet people who appreciate the version of you that already laughs at solo movie nights.

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