Dating Yourself First Starts Now

Unlocks the mirror effect: when you value your own company, IRIS Dating’s algorithm mirrors that energy, surfacing verified matches equally invested in growth, not distraction. Expect fewer profiles, deeper conversations, and invitations aligned with your weekend journaling ritual.

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From Solo to Supported

User mini-case: In a viral IRIS reel, Maya confessed she spent Saturday testing recipes solo before finding Alex, whose profile listed meditation brunches with self as a hobby. They bonded over the rule of Dating Yourself First and scheduled a farmers-market cook-along. IRIS made it seamless: AttractionDNA™ confirmed visual chemistry, and a prompt suggested sharing progress photos during prep. Because the app sends only five curated matches a day, Maya felt zero pressure to compete; she simply lived her routine and let quality conversations stack. Within weeks, their shared ritual expanded to sunrise hikes and book-swap Sundays—proof that self-respect attracts matching momentum.

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AttractionDNA Mirrors You

The algorithm studies your Likes and Dislikes during a quick training and produces a blueprint of your preference. When you practice dating yourself first—rating honestly, logging off to journal—the system refines that map daily. You’ll receive profiles who not only match your aesthetic taste but post captions about solo museum trips or Sunday reflections. This alignment validates your self-love habits and encourages you to maintain them, rather than bending to please random strangers online ever.

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Platinum Profile Review

Upgrade to Platinum and an IRIS matchmaking specialist personally audits your photos and prompts, highlighting themes that echo the way you already treat yourself—confidence, curiosity, calm. Their suggestions arrive as gentle nudges, not generic metrics. The process feels like asking a trusted friend for wardrobe advice before a solo brunch, reinforcing healthy self-investment. Members who embrace the review report more thoughtful first messages and quicker plans, turning inner respect into external opportunities for everyday romance wins.

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Curated Chat Prompts

IRIS replaces small talk with mindfully curated chat prompts: list three songs you dedicate to yourself, share one solo vacation goal, describe the book teaching you patience. Each answer reveals practices your match uses to nourish their own life. That transparency accelerates compatibility checks; if they skip the exercise, you know your self-care standard surpasses theirs. When they engage, planning a mirror date—yoga followed by silent coffee—feels natural and fresh for both souls in sync.

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ChatGPT Bio Refresh

Stale bios contradict self-respect, so the ChatGPT Bio Assist refreshes your intro whenever you learn something new about yourself—maybe a pottery habit or a breakthrough therapy insight. The AI proposes witty sentences, you pick the ones that resonate, and your profile updates without losing authenticity. Matches see a living document, not a frozen snapshot, and mirror the vulnerability by sharing their own evolving truths. Staying current signals that self-love is a continuous journey worth sharing.

Quality Beats Quantity

Endless options erode self-esteem; IRIS curates for alignment. Verified faces, trust scores, and prompt-driven chats replace conveyor-belt swiping. Because every profile must match your AttractionDNA™ and engagement style, you can invest deeply without fearing missed opportunities. The app teaches that valuing your own time attracts partners who mirror the respect, so quality beats quantity, and self-dating habits extend naturally into shared rituals for two people.

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What people say

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Trent Silvernail

I've been on Iris for eight months and had a better experience getting matched on here compared to other apps. Deleted all the others and kept just Iris. Since it is still a new app, I had to be patient as more people have signed up. Met a few good friends so far and the recent match... WOW! Most successful date I have had in years!

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Chi

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Rico

I'm writing this message more to vent and really advise overall. I've used Tinder, Bumble, and Iris. For probably three years now. Out of all of the companies who operate a dating app, Iris's business model and mission statement is more holistic and comforting. So I felt safer here.

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Clyde

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Joe Makela

Looking for a great app to find the love of your life? This is it! It uses stock photos to find your "type" then any person you may like has been verified to be real because they use selfie verified profiles! It's the best dating app I have come across!

Frequently Asked Questions

Iris uses advanced AI to analyze your preferences and behavior. Instead of relying on basic filters, our system learns what you find attractive by observing your interactions with profiles. This creates more meaningful matches based on genuine chemistry.

Iris offers both free and premium features. The free version includes basic matching and messaging capabilities. Our premium subscription unlocks additional features like advanced filters, unlimited likes, and priority matching.

Your privacy is our top priority. We use selfie verification to ensure authentic profiles, implement strong data encryption, and never share your personal information with third parties. You have full control over your profile visibility and can delete your data at any time.

Unlike traditional dating apps that rely on basic filters and endless swiping, Iris focuses on genuine attraction and chemistry. Our AI learns your preferences through behavior, not just stated interests, leading to more meaningful matches and better conversations.

Training Iris is the first step to personalized dating recommendations. Our AI focuses on facial features while being blind to skin color, race, hairstyle, and clothes. When you create an account, you'll train Iris by rating stock photos to help it understand your preferences.

The key to optimal training is balance: while enough 'High' ratings are essential, being overly generous can dilute the specificity of your type. Being too selective can prolong the process. Once trained, Iris continuously learns from your interactions to improve recommendations.

Claim Your Solo Power

Download IRIS and meet partners who applaud your self-care routine instead of competing with it.

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